I get a kick out of reality TV. I don't care what is going on in other peoples lives, but what I do enjoy is the little vacation my mind gets. Whether its Real Housewives, Vanderpump Rules, Keeping Up With The Kardashians, Shahs of Sunset or until i just couldn't stand it anymore- The Jersey Shore, it is always nice to just sit and watch nonsense that carries no weight in our real lives on TV. I don't have a "show" i have to watch, when I am watching anything, it is usually on for background and if someone wants to change it, I don't oblige. The only time I put up a fight is if they want to put on a horror or historical flick- I am not a fan of either of those, or even being in the same room with them. I don't want to be either scared or bored to death!
There are friends and clients of mine think that reality shows are repulsive. They either think it is silly nonsense, a bad example or that it rots your brain and I cannot totally disagree. Usually, the people on these shows are fighting over ridiculous things, stealing each others boyfriends or husbands, trying to "one-up" or impress each other, talking behind their best friends back or spending money in really lavish ways. Aside from the frivolous spending, (I mean come on, it is kind of exciting to think a person could have no worries about money) none of these things are really anything that we don' t all experience in our every day lives. That old saying "The more money, The more problems" is completely relevant here but what people don't say is how they are bringing on those problems themselves.
Although it is entertaining to watch a show that is so ridiculous, in real life I'm not a fan of the way people treat each other at times. Women (or once and a while men) can be down right vicious! Working in the hair industry in one of NJ's most savvy communities, I hear stories about women that compete with each other over things that are silly, quite frequently. When it comes to weddings, the celebration should be about celebrating the couple and not just a show to put on for all of their friends.
People are so brainwashed with the idea that one way of living is the right way for everyone. A marriage, house and two kids may not be an ideal life for everyone. When a person doesn't take a chance to sit back, breathe and understand who they are, what they truly desire and what will make them happy, they tend to worry more about keeping up or blending with everyone else. I believe that one will experience more true happiness if they really "know thyself." If a person is sure of or has a good idea of what it is that will make them happy in life, little things that really don't matter to them anyway will not take such a big space in their head. Comparing myself to anyone else but me would be useless.
About a year ago, I read one of Bethenny Frankel's books "A Place of Yes." I enjoyed the book completely and would recommend it to anyone, i may even read it again. In one of the chapters in the book she speaks about "staying in your own lane."
“I once read a quote in a book called Competition, that said, ‘Your opponent, in the end, is never really the player on the other side of the net, or the swimmer in the next lane, or the team on the other side of the field. Your opponent is yourself, your negative internal voices, your level of determination.” You have to stay in your lane. If you keep looking to the left and to the right to see what everyone else is doing, you slow down and lose your momentum. In any kind of competition, if you keep your mind on you and not on anybody else, you stay focused and efficient. “ - A Place of Yes
I could not agree more.
"Competition" and "cattiness" comes from one's own insecurities. Telling your friend something about another friend that isn't positive will not do anything for you. If you call someone fat, it wont make you thinner and comparing win's and losses will not make yours any better or worse. If we could all just be our friends and families cheerleaders think about how much more positive and less stressful life would be. It is a big world, there is enough room for everyone to attain their dream. Keep the drama inside the television.
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